I apologize to everybody for butchering up my question.
What I believed a simple answer turn out to be, a faint recollection of a conversation I had with a now dead person. Her of hand remark on her memory of the war infused itself strongly in my memory. I failed to recognize that although she spoke with conviction behind her words she may have been trying to scare a early teen(me), so any motion of war being romantic, be crushed.
If I be posting any further questions they will not be on my memory alone. They will be backed with written, facts from an accountable source.